It’s not always easy telling a first date that you smoke weed, or figuring out whether or not they do. Unless you met your date on a site like 420 Singles or made clear on your dating profile that you’re a cannabis consumer, broaching the topic could be a little awkward. If you’re curious whether your date is 420 friendly, there are a few ways you can find out without being overly explicit.
“Do you want to join me on this spliff/joint?”
Asking your date if they want to smoke before you go into a restaurant or perhaps after you leave a bar can be a good litmus test to determine their attitude toward cannabis. If they respond yes, then you know they consume. If they respond with something like “no thanks, I don’t smoke,” or “not right now,” it’s an opportunity to ask them about their relationship to weed.
If your date is in late April, ask what they did for 4/20
You can ask the question in a joking way or in a more serious manner. You’ll find out if 4/20 was just like every other day they smoke weed, or if they cared about the holiday to begin with. This will give you some hints into how clued into cannabis culture they are.
If they invite you over, look out for weed paraphernalia
You might notice a bong on their living room coffee table or a pipe on their bed stand. If you don’t see anything that would indicate they smoke, ask if you have to go outside to light a joint, and see if they want to join.
Marijuana legalization is a hot topic, among people who do and don’t consume cannabis. Ask what they think of what’s happening in states like California or Colorado. The more they know, the more they probably care about cannabis. And even if they know very little about the politics of legalization, asking is still a good opportunity to gauge their attitudes about weed.
Ask to borrow a lighter
Chances are, you might already know based on their dating profile, if they smoke cigarettes. If it’s clear they don’t smoke cigarettes, but still have a lighter, that might be an indication that they smoke weed.
Bring cannabis hand cream to your date
Casually rub some weed hand cream into your palms at the beginning of the date, or during an off moment. Explain to them what it is — that it contains cannabis, but won’t get you high — and see how they respond. It’s a way to start the conversation, while subtly showing the role weed plays in your life.
Straight up ask them
If cannabis is important to you and plays a large role in your life, it’s okay to ask your date how they feel about it, whether they consume, and if they’re okay with you consuming. Better to find out early in the relationship, than for it to be a point of tension later on.